Parenting is not an easy job any day and knowing how to discipline a child is part of raising them.
But, parents need to realize that discipline is not the same as punishment. Discipline requires teaching the distinction between good and bad behavior and how to respect other people’s rights.
Helping children develop while feeling loved and secure must be a primary goal when looking at discipline. Appropriate parental discipline should lead to self-confidence and self-discipline; where a child learns how to deal with desires; while positively managing irritations that accompany daily anxieties experienced in life.
In today’s age where disciplining a child can be perceived as being cruel, this are some ground rules to follow.
Never when you’re Angry
Parents should avoid disciplining their children when angry because discipline compelled by anger is child abuse. People administering physical forms of discipline when angry are abusers and bullies; who react to the frustrations they experience by taking it out on a child. A considerate parent wanting to provide a lesson and not merely hand out a beating; will make sure they wait until they are calm and think before meting out any punishment or correction.
Physical Discipline is Non-Productive
Physical discipline methods such as spanking is a temporary measure to stop types of behavior. Bad behavior usually resumes because spanking is punishment for acting in a specific way that is unacceptable. The child gets the message that the behavior was not acceptable; but spanking never reveals a lesson about what is fair or appropriate behavior.
Disciplining toddlers by spanking reinforces within a child not a correct behavior, but teaches the lesson to avoid getting caught. Furthermore, spanking is predicated upon instilling fear in the subject as a behavior modifier instead of instructing a child about the benefit of acting correctly.
Disciplining children must have at its very fundamentals a theme of consistency. A child should not be grounded for a week for using foul language only to ignore the same behavior at a later date. Using a method of denying a child a specific treat when telling a lie cannot give way to a child receiving a different treatment after telling a lie just because grandma is providing it. Children are quick learners who will quickly identify patterns of inconsistency when discipline will be ignored and will always seek to manipulate the situation. However where there is consistency, they soon realize that consequences will arise and must be faced.
Patience is Not Just a Virtue
As a parent, you must be determined to exercise enough patience to help a child develop correctly as you are the best qualified for this. You know when a child is testing boundaries, and you need to be the one reaffirming what are the proper behavior boundaries. During all the testing a child puts you through, it will be your degree of patience that dictates success in discipline for toddlers. It is better to alter your behavior by not showing anger remembering to continually respond calmly to the circumstances, as children will reflect the similar type of action shown in a parent. Therefore, ensure that the “mirror” you place in front of them is positive and loving.